Amanda bueno

Amanda Bueno de Mesquita is probably the best Systemic Therapist I have ever had the pleasure to be helped by. I say this because a few years ago I needed help over grief and did see a therapist, but I have to say although helpful took a very long time to get to where I needed to be.
Therapy is never easy, but Amanda has a very thorough ability to get to a situation quickly, respectfully, and with an open mind which does feel as though how ever hard she works you it is done with a huge heart and professionalism that I can’t recommend highly enough.
If you are prepared to listen , hear honesty, trust  and want to get it right for YOU then she absolutely is the one !

After undertaking years of psychotherapy, I had learnt much about how my formative years played a role in my current circumstances. Yet, I remained stuck both circumstantially and emotionally.  It was as if my 'ruach' - my breath of life in terms of my spirit had been diminished. I became so 'in my head' but couldn't transition what was in my head into making a change in my life.  It was as if, I remained somewhat in the dark on how to effect transformational change. As a result of feeling that something was still missing and that gaps remained, I felt prompted to start psychotherapy with Amanda because I was curious about the family systems approach.  

My sessions with Amanda were good. Her warmth and easy manner enabled me to open-up. Her candour supported our way of working, which was to get to the root of the matter. The outcome was that by taking this 'different' approach, I was pointed to a potential dynamic that no-previous therapist had suggested. All previous therapists didn't want to point to the underlying root of the matter. They didn't want to suggest this avenue and I felt that perhaps there was a dynamic of political correctness that created smoke and mist with my earlier therapists. Amanda's approach gets to the root of the matter by embodying the divine with truth: it is the truth that sets you free!

By taking Amanda's advice on the possible root of the matter, I began to work on my issues face-on with a strategic forward-looking approach and based on her guidance, I sought support from the appropriate specialist and voila! The answer to my underlying life issues were solved in one consultation that thousands of pounds in psychotherapy previously didn't point to.  However, Amanda pointed to it.  Only she did and for that I am eternally grateful. 

Amanda is a well-rounded therapist. She is not so intellectual that she can't embody the pain of her clients and her candour is so refreshing that clients cannot help but to leave sessions with figuratively speaking 20/20 sight.

Reach-out to Amanda and decide to work with her because your future life deserves it!

Thank you, Amanda, for all that you do for individuals like me that want better, seek better and now do better, as a result of having worked with you.

With eternal blessings to a world transformed.

I’ve had cause to require Amanda’s unique services a few years back I was having some issues with my son’s behaviour and after a few sessions with Amanda I gained enough insight to turn our relationship around - her ability to see what is really going on for both sides and to offer guidance on how to fix it that is actually achievable is extraordinary.

I’ve had a variety of different therapists over a 20-year period, Amanda offers a truly unique service - her ability to see straight to the heart of the matter, and offer resolution based support, is exceptional - there is no one else like her. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her to anyone, you can only gain from her time.

One of the best decisions I have made is having therapy with Amanda. She has helped me change the way in which I think and address my problems, which has helped so much with my anxiety. I couldn’t recommend her enough!

Amanda has led me on a journey of self-reflection and discovery that has been truly life-changing and made me a better husband, father and executive. Amanda’s ability to explore complex situations and hone in on underlying realities in a professional yet sensitive manner is extraordinary. Amanda is a master of her craft, has had an immeasurable impact on me and I would highly recommend her.

Amanda is an exceptional therapist, as well as a lovely, kind, and compassionate person. I found our sessions incredibly valuable and wished I had started to see her before reaching a point where I felt I needed to. I am extremely grateful to have been recommended to her and so it is my pleasure to recommend her to others.

Amanda works in a very nuanced, intuitive way. She is passionate and rigorous in her work and this makes me feel – as the client – that I am continually at the forefront of her thoughts and clinical care. Amanda has helped me find a different pattern of listening to myself and others. I have discovered keys and understood patterns of my behavior previously undetected. A new insight into myself has emerged, which is exciting, uplifting. I find that Amanda is equally adept at thinking and operating inside and outside the ‘normal’ therapeutic bounds, and so the work finds its way to us, quite often through unexpected paths or channels. I see and understand myself in a truer and more congruent way. Positive, meaningful changes have occurred for me and I hold a deep trust in her as a clinician and person. I feel fortunate that my path has crossed hers. 

I needed to find another way to deal with the struggle I was having with my 2 year old; she was having tantrums from the moment we were getting ready for nursery, until bedtime. I was at my wits end and decided to see Amanda for some professional advice.

She was able to show me what was happening within just one session, what was happening was actually something I was living in and couldn't ever see by myself. 

Having Amanda's eyes on my family dynamics, allowed me to be able to see the changes that needed to be addressed within two sessions and the tantrums literally have stopped, we now have tears and much more communication, which has had remarkable transformation to our relationship as a mother and daughter.

Amanda is extraordinary, she doesn't hold back and really encourages me to have the emotion whilst getting the most out of each session, by moving the emotion forward into language, this creates new pathways for creating action and results.

Thank you Amanda          

Amanda gives all of herself during therapy. She listens and hears. She is perceptive, intuitive and is able to provide incisive feedback, which is always thought provoking. It’s traditional therapy with a meaningful twist and many breakthrough moments. She connects with you and helps you connect with yourself.

Amanda came to visit our family at home. We were living in a war zone.  She managed to calm all of us and change our family dynamic in one visit.  I think she keeps Fairy Dust in her bag and sprinkles it.

Fairy Dust

After just one session with Amanda I felt I have a much better understanding of my daughter’s relationship with food. I thought I just had a fussy eater. In fact Amanda helped me to see that eating was a way that my four and half year old was exerting independence and control. She came up with some practical suggestions which have been effective, and helped me to see the issue from a different perspective.

I have had extensive problems dealing with my son's extreme fussiness with eating. It was just that- fussiness, nothing more. Amanda was able to come up with a workable written plan with me to combat this. Whilst I wouldn't say my son is now an adventurous eater , he definitely is eating more of a variety of foods and high quality foods such as fruits and vegetables. Amanda's input was invaluable in this. Her holistic approach involved removing the grandparents from the food equation (they let my son dictate) whilst ensuring full support was given at the nursery he attended. Thank you!

Amanda has offered her patience, kindness, support, and knowledgeable expertise in helping our son develop. She has an amazing array of knowledge, looking into each individual child's needs and offering emotional and well-being strategies to develop his sense of the world. I would highly recommend her as a therapist to any parent considering therapy for their child, especially those searching for care that offers professionalism as well as innovative, progressive strategies.

Amanda has the most fantastic intuition when it comes to reading people. My now 3 year old daughter is an outgoing and confident child. To the casual observer she has not a care in the world. Amanda however spotted after very little time that she was actually dealing with feelings of anxiety in certain situations. We discussed this and Amanda was able to help me to tackle the cause of these feelings and put mechanisms in place to try to help both me and my daughter.